Life too complicated to understand

Life is a complicated web that even if you were to sit down one would never straighten and understand exactly what’s going on in one’s head. When making decisions people take in so many things in consideration; that is their emotions, how people will view ones decision and what the brain is saying.  Taking a look at our soapy Isidingo we find these things that have been stated above. Today I will pay particular attention to Nikiwe one of the actors. Nikiwe discovers that she is pregnant with Frank’s child after they have broken up and she has moved on and is dating another guy. This new discovery baffle’s her as she is not even certain who the father of the child might be. These are one of the unexpected surprises that life throws at one as most women never picture themselves having children out of wed lock. In Nikiwe”s case it’s even worse because she is a successful business woman, who is intelligent people would expect her to be knowledgeable about preventing pregnancies. That is why she even drags telling her father because it is just so complicated she does not know where to start and is not even sure if he will understand.

 When it comes to pregnancy people always look at ones status and knowledge before they condemn forgetting that everyone is human and makes mistakes.  Instead of condemning people should learn to look past such things and help one put the pieces together and move on with their lives.

Nikiwe decides to keep the child hoping that this child will bring her close to Frank and at the same time she will continue to be a successful business woman but what she does not consider is that a child can change one’s life drastically.

Sometimes sitting down and thinking about past mistakes does not change them what changes them is what you do about those mistakes.                  

Honesty is the starting point to finding love...

I have always wondered if true love ever exists or is it just a utopian fantasy that will never materialise. Singers like Keri Hilson have sung about love and given hope to women who have dated wrong man and have given up on love. For example her song with Chris Brown says,

“Sometimes love comes around and it knocks you down just get back and it knocks you down”

This song encourages people that no matter how many times ones heart is broken he\she should never give up on it as the experience is priceless. We have had actors in Generations like Ruby in Generations finding love even though from a younger person that is Xolani. They have an age difference of more than twenty years yet they still connect and find love. This goes on to show that love has no age what counts is the heart.

To add on, this scene goes on to show that people should forget about peoples comments and look into their hearts when it comes to issues of love and decision making. Women in most cases tend to reject man not because they do not have a connection but are afraid of what people will say; if he is not successful, rich or meets the desired standard of one’s family or friends.

Today i plead to both man and women to be honest to themselves in matters concerning the heart because true happiness comes from that. Stop trying to please people at the expense of your happiness and love.  For example we have Senzo from Generations who tells Noluntu that even though he has fathered a child with her he does not love and he loves Jason. This honesty of Senzo causes Noluntu to give the child for adoption so as to punish him. The bottom line is Senzo was honest with Noluntu and saw that he could not sacrifice his happiness to please and marry her; thus making his life miserable.

Honesty is the correct road to take if one is to attain or find happiness.  

YOU ARE YOUR ON BOSS

I have discovered one has the power of telling or influencing people in the way to treat him or her. The power lies with him or her. Some people are treated as doormats by their friends and society because they are satisfied with such treatment from the world, others have been treated as punching bags because they have allowed it to happen and others have been treated as hobbies and not priorities because they have given society the key and platforms to do that. The entertainment sector has shown us all these people in society.

For instance we have films like Rules of engagement whereby we have Timmy who is summoned by Russell anytime to do his job as he slumps on a sofa or spends most of his time chasing women. Timmy is called by Russell even if it’s past his working time to bail him out if he is in trouble. He does not have the guts to stand up to Russell and tell him; “that he is not there to full fill his childish wishes”. Thus he is Russell’s door mate.

Moreover, in dramas like Generations we have characters like Phenyo who aim to please even if it means compromising their own values so as to gain approval. Phenyo goes to the extent of assisting Sello get out of prison even though he knows that Sello almost raped his wife Dineo and he belongs to jail. He does this so as to show Sello that he has as much power as Sibusiso does and can bail him out in any situation. Thus he becomes Sellos puppet being dragged everywhere by him.

Today I advocate that people take control of their lives and show people how they want to be treated instead of complaining that they are being treated unfairly. If you are a woman and want people to respect you set your principles and stick to them don’t compromise so as to please people but do it because you want to. If you are a man and want society to respect you set your own standards and maintain them. No one is born inferior but one can choses to be inferior.    

      

Women are super women

Single mothers have been portrayed by the media as women who work very hard and strive to meet their children’s needs. These women in most cases suspend their social lives to devote their time and attention to their children. Men in most of these films are portrayed as cowards who quit or resort to drinking when the going gets tough in raising their children. For instance in the film Client list we have a lady who is left by the husband when the going gets tough as he is failing to get a job. The man ups and takes his clothes and leaves leaving behind his two children and bills that are so high to the wife. Everybody is worried about Rex as he leaves his family in serious debt.

Sam as the wife is left to carry all this burden on her own and pay the mortgage so that her children are not left homeless as Rex has abandoned his family. This film shows how loyal women are when it comes to their families. They will tackle mountains and work themselves to the bone for their families. Sam opts for sleeping with men in the massage palla so as to be able to pay her bills and maintain their children’s lifestyle that they are accustomed to.

Women are taught at a tender age to be responsible that is, be concerned about the well-being of every member that even if the going gets tough they should hold on. Whilst men are sometimes made to go scot free for example in Client List everyone sympathises with Rex whilst he ran away from his responsibility. Instead people should condemn such people for leaving the entire burden to their wives as they run away from it.

On a conclusive note, one can safely say that women are super women who deserve nothing but praise and glory from society. 

   

Society a bit harsh towards women

                                                                                                                                                                                    

When it comes to women society has no mercy, the values and norms rule as they are the yardstick to measure how they are to be treated. When women have affairs a lot of insulting words are used to describe them like whore, loose and immoral. Whilst when men commit the same crime words of praise are used to justify them like a gigolo or player.  This shows how society views and understands gender roles. When women have affairs and are discovered the man are encouraged to dump the women and not pay attention to her excuses.  Situations reversed women are encouraged by society to look past it and not forget that man are children and need minding. The real question that one tends to ask is a 21-30 year old man a child or is it just an excuse to justify them being unfaithful or irresponsible by society??

According to Taylor Perry in the movie Why did I get married too , “when man have affairs it’s just sex and nothing else but when women have affairs it’s more than an affair as they get emotionally attached".

Thus one can safely say society in most cases a lot of excuses have been given to justify their action to an extent that it seems normal for man to have affairs and abnormal for women to do the same thing.

If something is wrong it should be condemned weather one is a male or female no excuses should be made to justify him or her. I believe that at a tender age children should be taught that they are equal.

For example in comedies like My wife and kids they show the importance of teaching children as equals as Michael and Jane make sure that if anyone does anything they will be punished without favour.

A bond between a parent and a child requires a lot of effort

 

Parents do everything in their power to give their children the best even though sometimes it might cost them an emotional bond with their children. A lot of parents in the year 2008 went overseas as Zimbabwe was proving to be getting worse day by day due to inflation. Most people were living from hand to mouth.

So some parents went overseas to make the lives of their children better leaving behind their children which includes; toddlers and teenagers in the care of their grandparents and relatives.  The media industry has shown the impact of such actions and decisions in dramas like Generations. In Generations there is a character called M.J who grew up with the father away most of the time thus was practically raised by the mother.

He has no strong bond with the father Caleb thus they clash most of the times when he is around from his journalist trips. Caleb craves for that father to son bond but distance makes it even hard for him and M.J to see eye to eye in most cases as they do not understand what the other wants and the best way to go about it.

In most cases when parents are absent in a child’s  life they try compensating with material stuff so as to feel the emotional void left behind  but truth be told material can never compensate for a parents absence. The reason being children need love and undivided attention from their parents  for them to be able to care and love someone else. In Generations M.J does everything in his power to please his farther so that he can be proud of him and stay longer. He carries on the hatred with the Dlomos without even knowing the root cause and does everything in his power to get attention which includes putting tattoo’s in his body.  

What parents sometimes forget is that being a parent is a full time job not a part time job that you can abandon anytime because one is dealing with emotions. If one cannot handle the pressure of being a parent then he/she should not consider having children as the children grow up feeling neglected, bitter and angry at the world.

Everyone deserves a happy childhood in their life and parents should consider this when making decisions because money can never offer an emotional bond or attention that people need. Scenarios where by parents and their children stay together and feel like strangers are the worst cases as the children do not have a strong connection with their parents and only see them as cash cows. Who are only there to finance their life styles?  

Maskiri set to hit the Nust Grounds on 9th of March

All roads lead to the NUST as the famous Maskiri will be performing live no showers. They is no entrance fee. The students will be there in numbers as the artist does his thing and sends everyone to the follow.

The show was organised by the Students Represantative Council (SRC) for the benefit of the students who were complaining that they is not much entertainment at NUST. The SRC seems to be doing a good job as last week they was a modelling competition for Miss Nust. Where we had an engineering student Ratanang Noko taking the price as Miss Nust and her two princess following behind. The students had an after party where most of them left at around 4am in the morning.

Showing how entertaining Miss Nust was and the Maskiri show is going to be better than Miss Nust so students are encouraged to come in their numbers to enjoy Maskiri’s performing live.

  

Technology changing society

The media is one of the one of the most important social institutions where the public learn how to interact with others, conduct themselves in public and lastly handle problems. Most people spend most of their time in social networks and children slowly but surely are getting accustomed to this way of life. Whereby social networks and technology are now part of our life styles and one cannot do without them. They have become a need.

When I was growing up I always loved playing outside with my age mates. Nowadays send a seven year old to go and play outside they will ask you what they are supposed to do because to them playing outside is boring and playing video games is much more interesting than interacting with their age mates. This further shows the impact of technology on our lives.

Women on the other hand have also been influenced by technology and social networks in the way they conduct themselves. Most women nowadays prefer dating online as compared to the olden tradition whereby they would meet up with men face to face and get to know each other that way. Dating online has proved very helpful for many because they is less stress and pressure from such a relationship. Movies like Double wedding have helped reinforce this point and convince women to take up that route.

Men have also suffered also in the hands of technology as we have cowards who do not have the guts to ask girls out face to face but have resorted to using social networks like WhatsApp, Facebook, Mixt and Binu. Even though technology has assisted in enabling people to communicate and express themselves it has also led to man being cowards and hiding behind technologies when it comes to expressing their emotions.

Technology changing society

The media is one of the one of the most important social institutions where the public learn how to interact with others, conduct themselves in public and lastly handle problems. Most people spend most of their time in social networks and children slowly but surely are getting accustomed to this way of life. Whereby social networks and technology are now part of our life styles and one cannot do without them. They have become a need.

When I was growing up I always loved playing outside with my age mates. Nowadays send a seven year old to go and play outside they will ask you what they are supposed to do because to them playing outside is boring and playing video games is much more interesting than interacting with their age mates. This further shows the impact of technology on our lives.

Women on the other hand have also been influenced by technology and social networks in the way they conduct themselves. Most women nowadays prefer dating online as compared to the olden tradition whereby they would meet up with men face to face and get to know each other that way. Dating online has proved very helpful for many because they is less stress and pressure from such a relationship. Movies like Double wedding have helped reinforce this point and convince women to take up that route.

Men have also suffered also in the hands of technology as we have cowards who do not have the guts to ask girls out face to face but have resorted to using social networks like WhatsApp, Facebook, Mxit and Binu. Even though technology has assisted in enabling people to communicate and express themselves it has also led to man being cowards and hiding behind technologies when it comes to expressing their emotions.

Preserving Our Artists.

Zimbabwe is a talented nation that is only lacking in opportunities. That with enough exposure and experience we would be able to produce quality music that can be seen nationwide.  I remember when I was a child we would all sit around the television waiting for our favourite music show Sisonke Mix to start. Songs like, “Uhamba nobani” by PO ZEE and Sikhu would be broadcasted and we would all stand up and dance. I believe that such talent still exist in Zimbabwe that if our singers were given such an opportunity and well groomed we would have the number one hit song coming from Zimbabwe.

In Western countries upcoming artist are given a chance to prove themselves and show the world what they are made of in shows like the X-factor. Where by the judges are professional singers who also train the artists during the course of the competition. The winners are given record deals with well-known companies thus they are set for life. If Zimbabwean artist were to be given such opportunities we would be a step ahead from the rest of the world. As the artists would be groomed by Legendries’ like Oliver Mutukudzi,  who has toured the world and is well respected.

Artist  should be  groomed  both professionally and financially.It is disheartening and painful  to note that most of our  talented  artist have  gone  six feet  down  the grave, dying  in absolute poverty  devoured by ravages  of HIV/ Aids. Popularity  should not go up  to their heads  but  they  should be  moulded  into very disciplined  individuals who should  understand  themselves and carry themselves  well  in order  to  rise high and    live longer.

Today I advocate for the same opportunity for Zimbabwean artist who have talent but at the same time need a push in the right direction from the experienced singers.