It's the people close to us who hurt us the most.....

It’s amazing how people believe that sorry is glue that can mend anything and put it back to shape.  Forgetting one important aspect that is, one is dealing with humans not toys. Who do not easily heal but take time as there are emotions involved.

I would like to look at this aspect using Mvhango whereby we have characters like Thandaza and Pheko who share history and at the same time still care and love each other even though Thandaza is married to Ranthumeng. This goes on to show that emotions know no bounds and it’s not easy to bury and forget them as if they do not exist. This can be seen in Thandaza’s case as she easily trusts Pheko when he comes back looking for a job at Mkwevho  Holdings thinking that he is only there to better the company but little does she know that he is only there to destroy and take what she treasures the most. That is her company from her. I have always found life a bit intriguing; the people who hurt us the most are not strangers but people  who we would have loved and shared every detail about our lives. The very same people that we would expect to protect and guard our lives. Then when our treasured friends betray us and offer sorry as an excuse you tend to wonder who to trust. Or trusting someone is the biggest mistake one can make in their life. As sorry does not build any bridge or mend the heart.

In Thandaza’s case Pheko offered his apologises and said it was the only way he could pay off his debts. In other words he saw Thandaza as his escape goat that he could use to settle his debts. Showing how little we know of the people who we love and treasure in most cases. Forgetting about such experiences and moving on is one of the most painful things ever but for one’s sanity and happiness one needs to let go of the past and move on. This entire process depends on one being ready to forgive.     

Mawande Set to leave Generations

Cape Town – Generations star Nambitha Mpumlwana has reportedly been fired from the popular SABC1 soap due to being too demanding.

Mpumlwana's alleged insistence on "Hollywood treatment" and her becoming too much to handle has resulted in her contract not being renewed. Unnamed actors also confirmed to the Sunday Sun that she's difficult to work with.

This follows reports that surfaced early last year accusing Mpumlwana of being difficult to work with, showing up late for shoots and being a brag, according to TVSA.

The actress' Generations character, Mawande Memela, will reportedly disappear by being booked into a mental institution.

According to TVSA, she will still be seen on Generations until mid-August.

Mpumlwana, a prominent face on local screens, is best known for her role in Oscar-winning South African film Tsotsi as well as local TV shows The Lab and Shado's.

She has also guest starred in 7de Laan and Isidingo and had a role in the film Safe House, opposite Denzel Washington and Ryan Reynolds.

Learn to be grateful

People in most cases take most do not appreciate what their loved ones do instead they Condon and insult what has been given to them. This point is usually seen in media where reality is constructed as a source of escapism or as an institution where people learn how to conduct and carry themselves in society.

The drama that I am taking a look at is Skeem Saam which is broadcasted on Sabc 1. In the drama there is a character called Mantuli who has struggled to raise her children as a nurse after the husband Seakamele left her for about 12 years. She struggles to give them a normal up bringing on her own. When the husband shows up out of nowhere he has more of criticism than appreciation. He accuses Mantuli of being unfaithful and that their last born daughter is not his. He has nothing to show for his 12years away apart from excuses and lack of satisfaction on the way his children have been raised.

He is not happy with the fact that his first born daughter was impregnated when she was 16 and is living with the man who impregnated her and has not even paid the damages and bride prices for his daughter. A question that one would ask themselves is where was the father when the children were growing and if he claims to love his children a lot why would he neglect his children for 12 years: only to show up when the children are fully grown and mature.  All these signs point to a father who is selfish and who is only realising that he is growing older and does not have anyone to take care of him lest anything is to happen. To him family is not something that he treasures the most but sees it as a refugee camp where one goes when desperate.

On a conclusive note I can safely say bonds between a family can never be built within a day. If you want your family to love and respect you, one should be there for them through any challenges and if you want them to resent you vanish and show up after 12years and one will definitely experience a very cold home coming. So let’s start by appreciating the work done by others while we were away instead of criticizing their efforts first.  

                                                                                                                                         

Learn to be grateful

People in most cases take most do not appreciate what their loved ones do instead they Condon and insult what has been given to them. This point is usually seen in media where reality is constructed as a source of escapism or as an institution where people learn how to conduct and carry themselves in society.

The drama that I am taking a look at is Skeem Saam which is broadcasted on Sabc 1. In the drama there is a character called Mantuli who has struggled to raise her children as a nurse after the husband Seakamele left her for about 12 years. She struggles to give them a normal up bringing on her own. When the husband shows up out of nowhere he has more of criticism than appreciation. He accuses Mantuli of being unfaithful and that their last born daughter is not his. He has nothing to show for his 12years away apart from excuses and lack of satisfaction on the way his children have been raised.

He is not happy with the fact that his first born daughter was impregnated when she was 16 and is living with the man who impregnated her and has not even paid the damages and bride prices for his daughter. A question that one would ask themselves is where was the father when the children were growing and if he claims to love his children a lot why would he neglect his children for 12 years: only to show up when the children are fully grown and mature.  All these signs point to a father who is selfish and who is only realising that he is growing older and does not have anyone to take care of him lest anything is to happen. To him family is not something that he treasures the most but sees it as a refugee camp where one goes when desperate.

On a conclusive note I can safely say bonds between a family can never be built within a day. If you want your family to love and respect you, one should be there for them through any challenges and if you want them to resent you vanish and show up after 12years and one will definitely experience a very cold home coming. So let’s start by appreciating the work done by others while we were away instead of criticizing their efforts first.  

                                                                                                                                         

Let’s have gentleman in our society

Things have changed a lot. Nowadays we have men who tell girls,                                                              “I need space”.

What happened to giving a girl signs so that she makes the call to end the relationship? I tend to wonder all these things that were drilled to our fathers have been thrown down the drain. Leaving girls vulnerable and hurt as this definitely knocks their confidence and self-esteem.

No-matter how much we might believe in gender equality something’s never change, respect of another’s feelings is still essential and important in society and in relationships. People take such things as feelings for granted, no body anticipates the worst but one should tread carefully when it comes to matters of the heart.

For instance in Generations we meet a character called Senzo telling Noluntu that he will never love her the way she deserves and that he will always love Jason but he forgot about all that when he slept with her and led her own. Making her believe that they is hope of her and Senzo being a serious item.  Due to that Noluntu is still angry and bitter and does everything in her power to hurt and punish Senzo. As they say,                                                                                          “hell heath no fury like a woman scorned” 

Even if it means using her son as a pony in her devious games, It all goes to show how women accept being embarrassed and ditched by men.

On a conclusive note I can safely say when it comes to ending relationships men should be gentleman as women are usually crushed when they are stripped off their pride by men…

  

Stigma towards HIV patients still exists

People with AIDS and HIV are still being stigmatised in society and are having a hard time living a normal and ordinary life like all citizens. These things I have seen in media as actors are isolated and seen as unclean by society.

No-matter how learned people are in society they still has a hard time coming into terms with people’s status. Findings confirm that stigma is associated with psychological adjustment and adherence difficulties and is experienced more commonly among people who disclose their HIV status to a broad range of social contacts. Stigma should be addressed in stress management, health promotion, and medication adherence interventions for HIV-positive people.

Films like Zone 14 have shown how people react through the use of characters like Speedy who has HIV and has a hard time telling his friends, family and community at large because of fear on how they will react. When his friends in the community discover no one wants to be associated with him. His team members can’t even stand sitting on the same sofa with him let alone play soccer with him.

On a conclusive note, I urge people to stop stigmatizing HIV people but work to making them  feel comfortable and live a normal life like everyone else. They deserve happiness in their lives.  

History of Nicki Minaj

Nicki Minaj was born on December 8, 1984, and grew up in Queens, New York. She is of African, Trinidadian and Indo-Asian descent. She graduated from LaGuardia High School in Manhattan where she studied singing and acting.

Minaj was discovered on MySpace by Dirty Money CEO Fendi, who signed her to his Dirty Money label. After appearing on The Carter Edition of Young Money's The Come Up DVD series, Minaj was contacted by Lil Wayne. The two collaborated on a number of mixtape tracks. In April 2007, she released her first mixtape, Playtime Is Over, where she posed as a Barbie doll on the cover. Lil Wayne appeared on the track "Can't Stop, Won't Stop".

In 2008, Minaj released her mixtape, Sucka Free. She appeared in the July issue of XXL magazine, giving a brief overview of her life up to that point in time. Later that year, Minaj won Female Artist of the Year at the Underground Music Awards.

Nicki Minaj released Beam Me Up Scotty, another mixtape, in 2009. It received generally positive coverage on the of both BET and MTV.

In August 2009, Minaj signed to Young Money Entertainment with distributution from Universal Motown wherein she will release her debut studio album in 2010. Minaj also featured on Jeffree Star's 2009 album Beauty Killer on the track "Lollipop Luxury".